A WOMAN’S NATURE & WHY MEN DON’T WANT TO MARRY ANY MORE!

         This is a fun one…and I ask that you stay with me to the end as you will be VERY surprised.  All of the data that I am seeing in America is that young men don’t want to get married and people no longer value having families.  Men are tired of man-bashing and would prefer to live in peace.  Women choose career over family.  None of this is Scriptural.  Everyone who knows me knows that I am platinum card member of the Evil Women Hater’s Club.  I’ve earned it through my six-plus decades on this planet trying to figure them out with great pain and disappointment.  I will give you the premises for this argument in 10 theses.

         Thesis 1: Women are big children all of their lives.  Women never quite leave childhood.  The female nature is best suited to the rearing of small children precisely because it is, childlike.  Frivolous, short-horizoned, preoccupied with the immediate.  They are emotionally direct in a way a six-year old is emotionally direct.  This is not an insult, rather, it is a functional description.  In this day and age, the 35-year old woman is a 19-year old girl with a Botox calendar.  Girls’ night out, spa treatments.  The cult of perpetual girlhood is now a multi-million dollar  industry.

         Thesis 2: Only what is present is reality for women.  Women exist almost entirely in the present, compared to men who exist across the past and the future.  Women have difficulty planning and projecting and steeply discount the future.  Women’s ruling temporality is the now and every man who has ever been in a relationship knows this.  Sadly, most neanderthals or uninsightful men don’t have the vocabulary to articulate it.  In today’s age, a woman will swipe past her future husband because his fourth photograph on the dating app has bad lighting or angle.  A woman will argue with a man tonight about something that has nothing to do with tonight, and the absence of any specific incident to tonight will not bother her.  You see, her fight is NOT about tonight, it is about the rolling residue of every moment in the last six weeks compressed into a present tense complaint that she sincerely believes is about you not pushing your chair in when she hastily bumped her knee.  Instagram is NOT an application, it is the present tense made in algorithms into a userbase.  What was once a woman’s interior, Instagram and other social media has constructed it into a public lobby for everyone to see.

         Thesis 3: As nature has given the lion claws and the bull elephant tusks, nature has also given women the gift of dissimUlation—NOT dissimilation—two different words.  This may end my marriage and my career, but my claim is that lying is not a moral failing in women.  It is their natural defense.  Women are historically the physically weaker organism in a species where the physically stronger organism can historically take what he wants.  Remember, the lion got claws, the elephant tusks, but the woman gets the ability to present a face that does NOT match the interior.  For today, the dating apps profile are a dissimUlation as the actual product.  Women have 4 photos from her best month, an angle she discovered years ago and stuck with it to accentuate her height, no age or weight mentioned, but somehow in her profile also speaks French because she watched “Chocolat” with the subtitles on.  When women write, “I’m not like other girls” it is simply that her dissimUlation has a different ascetic.  These are the lion’s claws she was never given by nature.  DissimUlation wins the narrative today in politics, religion, and relationships.    

         Thesis 4: Women have a less sense of justice than men, their sense of justice is replaced by cunning.  Men develop a stable architecture of what is fair—abstract, principled, applied evenly.  Women do not develop or have this architecture.  It is replaced with cunning—a real time situational calculation of what she needs from this person right now.  Women use terms like narcissist, gaslighting, and the list goes on in social media and can be ferociously sophisticated, but it certainly has nothing to do with justice.  A different organ doing a different job.  Men will receive rage rants about things her “bestie” does on a weekly basis.  Women deploy the word “boundaries” outward and exempt themselves from it inward.  A woman can never be a hypocrite as that requires a stable moral framework that can be violated.  Cunning is not less sophisticated than justice, it is just not appealable.  Men try to argue consistently with an inconsistent system and she somehow is never embarrassed by her inconsistency.

         Thesis 5: Men’s ruling passion is honor, a woman’s ruling passion is vanity.  A man’s honor reputation is honored amongst men—expressed in deed and sustained in absence.  In a man’s sense, vanity is the female craving for admiration, measured by what is seen and expressed on the surface, and sustained only while the audience is watching.  Social media is the vanity engine made into a platform.  It is the female “looksmaxxing” market without an irony tag, and it predates the male copy by at least 10 years—the Beta males are starting to figure it out.  When men finally got around to building “looksmaxxing” as a vertical, they were copying women, too late and too clumsy, but women have been doing it since the early 2000’s.  The front facing camera has been the most consequential invention of the 21^st century for female psychology—and we still have not analyzed the price on mental well-being.

[ANYONE GETTING ANGRY YET?  YOU GOTTA READ OR LISTEN TO THE WHOLE THING UNLESS YOU’RE A LAZY COWARD!  FUN!!]

         Thesis 6: Women can have NO real interest in any of the arts.  Women’s apparent interest in music, painting, philosophy, and poetry is largely performative.  Their interest is directed at the men producing or admiring the work and not the work itself.  A woman will evolve her taste in music to what the man likes, she watched the documentary you mentioned, and somehow became a stoic when you read Marcus Aurelius.  A woman’s interests are a lagging indicator of the man’s.  The rare anomaly of a woman who breaks this pattern is conspicuous precisely because she is the exception to the pattern—men do not have this pattern in reverse.  His tastes are not on average a function of the woman he is seeing, yet hers are a function of the man she is seeing.  For women, playlists rotate and the playlists track the man.

         Thesis 7: Women would be better served by polygamy than monogamy.  This is by far the most economically incisive thesis of the 10, and very few have the audacity to speak to it as admitting it concedes the entire framework of the argument.  In reality, female reproductive interest is not actually served properly in exclusive monogamy.  Women are best served by getting a partial share in a high quality man than the full share of a low quality man.  Today’s dating apps have run a real world experiment on this for nearly 20 years.  80% of female swipes go to the top 20% of men.  Women’s selection matches this thesis point as monogamy in a low friction selection environment is a discipline against gravity.  Most women never develop this discipline because most cultures use this to apply the friction externally.  When the friction lifts, the gravity reveals itself—and it is in the algorithms of the dating apps.

         Thesis 8: European women should not exist at all.  The European chivalric tradition elevated women to a station of a lady, who overstated their virtue and trained men to grant deference unrelated to anything the women had ever earned or accomplished.  This “lady cult,” now referred to as feminism is a confection that produces miserable women and confused men.  When we call women our queen or princess, essentially royalty, when in reality their behavior is seldom royal—it is a slow corrosion.  Modern HR is the institutional enforcement arm of the “lady cult” version 2.0.  Disagreement with a woman in the workplace is now a procedural offense before it is a substantive one—the rebrand has more legal force than the original contention.  And like the original, it is producing miserable women as the perceived gap between “queen” or “princess” and a woman’s behavior is not queenly—and the gap widens each year.  Men have to worship in a new chapel where the same idol is still being worshipped but it is unrecognizable.

         Thesis 9: Nature only blesses women with youthful beauty and exuberance for a limited time.  This is a brutal truth but actuarially correct.  Female beauty of a brief biological loan as nature only lends it for the window in which she is more fertile, then snatches it away.  Any woman who treats beauty as a primary asset has staked her market position on a depreciating instrument with a known maturity date.  The gap between a woman’s perceived market position at 25 and her actual market position at 35 is the longest fall in modern economics.  Ozempic, Botox, filler, surgical adjustments, and filter photographs—none of these delay the cliff, they just delay the date she goes off of it.  It just serves to confuse women and men’s expectations.  The math is visible to anyone who has eyes.

         Thesis 10: This is the one that will get me the most hate.  Truth stinks sometimes—oh well.  The greatest works in art, philosophy, science, mathematics, and music has been overwhelming the product of men.  And it can be predicted that this will never change.

         My last contention is that the gates of every institution have been formally opened and the funding flows in both directions and the encouragement is overwhelming.  If the explanation for the disparity were entirely cultural, the disparity should have shifted by now—but no meaningful movement.  Data does not care about what posture you have been trained to assume about the data.     

         Now that you are all angry and incensed, here comes the punchline.  These premises were written in Frankfurt, Germany in 1851 by a gentleman named Arthur Schopenhauer—I only added the modern examples to his thoughts.  He had no psychological analysis, no empirical data, or academic achievement to back up his premises, no anthropological study—just writing about his thoughts on women.  This 10-page essay is entitled “On Women.” When it was published it completely ended his social and dating life—go figure.  What fascinates me most is that for over 175 years his essay is the cautionary tale that every philosophy professor uses to demonstrate what an otherwise magnificent mind looks like when it has been corrupted by misogyny.  Interestingly, everything he wrote, line by line has been confirmed by every dating application 170 years later.  The author lived alone and a very bitter life with his dog Atman.  He died at his desk and his pessimism was mainly philosophical.

         Try to remember that a bitter man can also be a correct man.  The bitterness will never invalidate the diagnosis—it may only invalidate the prescription.  I have the STRONGEST women in my church.  Heck, my neighbor is one of the most resilient and mentally and morally tough women I have ever known.  I have (finally) a true Proverbs 31 wife that makes me desire with my all to be a strong Ephesians 5 husband and complete Christian.  This is the second half, now that I understand what I am dealing with and now can stand in front of her without flinching or resenting her for what I already know and what she already knows.  She is living her script without betrayal and I, mine.  Any deviation a woman may have or be confusing is not a deviation, it is indeed her female nature as I have my own male nature.  It is all as per God’s design in a worldly environment that continually strips the constraints that used to shape outputs.  You simply can’t argue with the weather. 

         This psycho-babble of the “cooperative communicative emotionally available equity partner model” that our current culture is selling us is not a description of the woman or man in front of you.  This is simply marketing so you go pay your $100 an hour to a kid with a psych college degree and keep you coming back like a self-licking ice cream cone.  The product and endstate simply does not exist. 

         As men, REAL men, we need to redirect every erg of energy that we once used on blame, confusion, resentment, and fighting into the Godly kind of man that she will run toward, rather than away from.  And she has a Godly requirement to do likewise.

         Sorry for tricking you…but you know me, just as long as you learned something today, I really don’t care.